Gluten Free Life, Happy Wife

I’ve come to terms with it, my body cannot digest gluten.

I’ve gone through all 5 stages of Loss and Grief. Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. And finally, Acceptance.

light-at-the-end-of-the-tunnelThe light at the end of all 5 stages.

Gluten is a protein. It is found in wheat, rye and barley. Think pasta, cereals, bread, and pastries. Have you ever heard of Celiac’s disease? It is an autoimmune disease wherein the digestion of gluten inflames the individual’s small intestines. Gluten when introduced to the intestinal wall causes the immune system to attack it, at the same time, attacking the intestinal wall too. Imagine a country’s army attacking it’s own government. Disaster. That is what happens when a person with Celiac’s disease consumes gluten, major internal catastrophe!

The way I see it, people with Celiac’s have simple digestive systems. Why are their bodies wired to respond with a “muscles out, guns a blazing” move once the gluten hits the small intestines? This got my husband and I to wonder, so we started researching. So much information, so many opinions, different dietary preferences. The 2 main things that we gathered are, 1- Humans are not adapted to digest gluten, and 2-Humans have different reaction intensity and time frame response to gluten exposure. Every individual is built differently, that’s what makes us special and unique.

This post is not to persuade you to go gluten free, I understand that it is not for everyone. It is a matter of making a choice. But, in the case of individuals with Celiac’s disease or autoimmune diseases, we have no choice. Choice is important, we were all born with free will. When that freedom to choose what you can eat or do is taken away from you, what do you have left? Faith and hope. We need to stay positive because this is our lifestyle. And so, I want to share my positive outlook to all individuals with autoimmune disorders. I’d like to think that our limitations exist because we are blessed with the gift of health. The way I see it, we have an automatic sensor to all things that could be potentially harmful to humans. Our bodies automatically go into hyper drive to protect itself. We need to eat and live a healthy life, otherwise, we face serious health repercussions. Who would have thought that “having no choice” could be a good thing!?!

I was eating lunch a few days ago with my husband when I suddenly blurted out, “God really knows what He was doing when He gave me Lupus.” This started the discussion that inspired this post. My lupus flares are manifested in rashes, joint pains, and it is apparent in my blood test results. But let us focus on my rashes. I get them on my face, specifically in “the butterfly area.” When I get stressed out, or when I get sick, they come out. They also appear when I eat gluten and dairy products, faster than a speeding bullet. During the course of our conversation he goes, “Well, it’s a good thing you are vain.” Just to reiterate, my vanity is well within normal bounds. I like my skin to be clear, rash free & milia free. Who doesn’t, right?

If you search for Lupus online, you will find that individuals who have it need to stay away from sunlight, stress and infection. You won’t find much about dietary restrictions. But with 6 years of living with Lupus I have come to understand my body and its intolerance for gluten and dairy products. Medical researches online rarely suggest a gluten free, and dairy free diet for Lupus patients. Maybe they should look into doing scientific studies on the effects of dietary modifications. We have read a number of blogs of Lupus patients who have gone gluten free and are doing so much better health wise. It is about time that I follow suit.

So.. Here we are, Acceptance. The final stage. My husband and I have actually tried being gluten free before. It doesn’t last though cause I love food. I lovvveeee seefood. Everything I see, I want to eat. It actually feels good to be at this stage. Shouting it loud, shouting it pahhroouuuddd! We are going gluten free, 100% this time! As Franz Kafka said, “From a certain point onward there is no longer any turning back. That is the point that must be reached.” Well baby, we have finally reached the point of no return! (husband now jumping with tears of joy, shouting “finally!!!”)

Ky’s Life Equation

gluten = rashes = unhappy ky = unhappy wife


gluten free = no rashes = happy ky = happy wife


Gluten free life = Happy Wife

Travel with me as I journey high and low in my newly stocked kitchen, as I get to know all these amazing ingredients, as I research experienced gluten free bakers, and as I tweak them to our taste bud’s liking. I look forward to baking more, cooking more and eating MORE gluten free goodies. Cheers!


About Ky Malupa

Housewife. Mother of 2 angels. Gluten free, dairy free, corn free baker and eater. SLE patient. Hair and Makeup Artist. Image Enhancement Instructor.
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3 Responses to Gluten Free Life, Happy Wife

  1. Good luck! I’m having a similar journey with IBS! Although it’s more like any food could potentially trigger. I’ve worked out it’s too much of anything and a really delicate balance needed – hard to get your head around at first as so many foods look and taste so good .. Feeling ill constantly is not a good trade off. There are loads of new things to try and they often taste better! Have fun with it! Don’t see it as not having something, see it as having a whole new world of possibility.

    • Ky Malupa says:

      Thanks for reading my post and taking the time to share your insight. I understand what you mean with all these new things to try! It is hard to let go of gluten and dairy, but it has been 6 years in the making. I’m just happy that I’ve finally accepted my situation. My husband telling me all these information did not help, it’s really different when you reach your own “aha” moment. Good luck with your IBS, and hope you find a dietary balance that will help control it.

  2. Pingback: I AM A LUPUS WARRIOR | The Housewife

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